Updated: Dec 27, 2018
Have you ever felt it, that when you released a part of yourself that you had not intentionally shown for a long time, your mind suddenly felt like feather? When my friend Raisa (the founder of this P#T movement in Indonesia) opened up about her own story, I could relate. Time had arrived for me to do the same - to share my story with a wider group of people and inspire them to action. I am extremely glad to share it on this platform to gift this peace to myself and everyone this Christmas and I hope you can too.
BY LIM SHIN
She was an innocent eight-year-old girl in Primary Two.
She was not very exposed to the dualities of humanity.
She, however, was psychically sensitive although she was only a child – her sixth sense and body (yes, our body never lies) told her that something was not quite right, but at that time, she didn’t know how to react or respond.
When she invited her uncle to play with her, a fun and friendly adult under her impression who liked to tickle his nieces’ backs and gave them piggyback rides, she didn’t expect that that neutral invite to play from a child could rouse to satisfy sexual desires. The playing in the form of tickling progressed from her calves to her inner thighs and resulted in genital contact and continuous grazing for the next estimated quarter to half an hour.
Her peals of joy-filled child laughter simply reduced from entertained giggles to uncomfortable stiffness.
Her uncle had entered her family apartment with keys from her grandmother, intending to retrieve an item he had left. That intention changed when the opportunity to commit the act presented itself in opportune time – with apparent low risks of getting caught.
When her grandmother came home with the alarming tinkering sounds of the gates, her uncle quickly halted and shot her an awkward serious look hinging on fear, as if a signal to shut her mouth for as long as she could.
She, was, and is me.
She, could also be you out there.
You’re not alone in this.
I Tried To Hide It With Other Life Goals, But In The End, The 'Bad' Too, Actually Gives Life's Learning Curves
Yes, that happened to me. And I’m happy to say that I’m able to share my perspective here on the PTT platform after a conversation with Raisa.
By law, the term and act of ‘Sexual Molestation’ is recognized as a crime in which certain professional institutions currently classify under ‘Sexual Abuse’ (which the phrase as defined by the standard dictionary, brings across a heavier connotation).
I kept silent about this for fifteen teenage years for various reasons, including not wanting to disrupt familial relationships and face the pouring fears of judgment and hurt.
I behaved as I normally did, acted like nothing had happened out of the contrary, and had brushed that memory aside while growing up. As far as I was concerned then, that incident simply served to make me stronger mentally as an independent female – I had not allowed myself to be ‘vulnerable’ again and believed I was fine.
Through those years, my personality was burning with ambition and competitive desires to win in as many aspects as I could, to be ‘successful’; a natural individualized result from self-protection and a twisted belief which wasn’t my calling as I came to understand subsequently but rather, an experiential process that led me to the path I will walk eventually.
That destructive ambitious drive had hidden an injured soul and a trauma on the subconscious level that no one even myself had realised then.
A turning point came in University when I finally grasped the fact that I was really not comfortable being with males alone, even if the person in question was a close friend.
Being the contemplative and self-reflective person I was, I constantly queried myself on daily observations and strove to be better than who I was yesterday, every day.
And so I discovered something about myself: I had never known that something I brushed under those rugs decades ago still affected me and on such a deep level, though subtle; I was shocked. That moment sparked my journey inwards, a progressive journey of six-seven years of self-exploration and healing that would shift my perspectives of Life forever. I was ready to acknowledge and accept my memories of what I had experienced.
How I Started My Journey Of Healing
That incident made me wise up by leaps; it allowed me to see clearly aspects of humanity that were far from the ‘unicorn-ish’ world we lived in as children. When there is white, there must be black. When there is good, there must be bad. The duality of this world is one of the natural laws of the Universe and cannot be denied.
To begin, Reiki played a major role in my healing journey, even as there were many avenues for making peace with my experiences.
I was led to learn the Reiki practice by my angels, guides, my higher self or inner wisdom, whichever you liked to call it regardless of religion and beliefs. From the moment I signed up for it then, I knew I was in it for the long run, whether for my own self, or for the world.
Reiki provided that safe and non-invasive, non-intrusive healing I needed on deep holistic levels. It was personal and private (you may have a different experience compared to mine; Reiki experiences are unique); there was no one to judge me, no one to call me ‘sick’.
Without even knowing or wanting to know the exact reason why, my heart gradually dropped the weight of that decades-long burden, releasing the trauma over those years. I also understood that an accumulated burden or issue would not be lifted in one day; there needed to be an appropriate flow of time to gently nudge us toward letting go and rediscovering our inner wisdom and peace.
I’m heartened to share my experience and journey with you here; every step I took was a decision I had made on my own accord and even if time was to turn back, I would not have made a different choice – I would not have known then in those circumstances!
Every step in our lives is a growth and learning by itself. I implore you to treasure your steps, to never regret your decisions, to cherish your place in this world and to love yourself. We all deserve better. Only then, can we start loving others and the world.
Every journey begins from inside your ‘Self’. So start allowing yourself to be empowered; start allowing yourself to take your life by its reins. Have trust and faith in yourself and the divine - your challenges are thrown your way because you are so so capable of overcoming them. I cannot stress that more.
Last but not least, it is important to know that you shouldn’t have to struggle by yourself; find support, whether through God, the Universe, your angels, guides, close friends and family or even external groups. I thank, if for not what I have gone through, I would not have become the person I am today.
Regardless of what gender, ethnicity or religion you are, or what you have gone through, make a commitment to yourself to live your life well.
The beauty of Life can be very easily obscured by our tainted minds and injured hearts. When it gets tough, try going beyond your five senses; try closing your eyes, shutting your ears and switching off your senses for a moment; the words, sounds and feelings disappear, the judgment vanishes.
Then switch on your senses again, open your eyes and see and respond with clarity. The faster and braver you face your devils, the faster and cleaner they dissolve.
And if you are curious on what happened to my story; there is no need for me to confront him now for I have importantly, found peace in my being some years ago and forgiveness rings. Now, I would like to pass on the gift of healing to you.
While some of our experiences can seem nothing to most people, they can amusingly give us one of the toughest lessons to overcome.
When faced with such overwhelming experiences in life, we can easily succumb to them and choose the easy way out by escape, which manifests itself in the form of mental and emotional illnesses and subsequently physical illnesses or in extreme cases, severe depression and suicide. However, escape does not end your suffering.
You merely hide it temporarily while accumulating the burden and continue it either in the next phase of your current life or plainly, your next life. Facing up to it is the only way to get it out of your system.
Stay present and move forward, Life does not stay in the past; Life rises with the Sun every day.
I pray and urge that you may go above and beyond your own hurdles, and inspire others to do the same, making life decisions with clarity, wisdom and love.
I faced Life’s challenges courageously, will you too?
I do hope that you may receive healing in any way through my story, and rediscover and bring out the wisdom and peace that have always been inside you, you never thought you have.
"Perhaps the greatest irony of healing is that it occurs when we accept our felt experience, rather than rely on willpower or focused effort to get rid of the unwanted." —Josh Korda
About The Author
Lim Shin is an inspiring millennial healer, Reiki and spiritual teacher, based in Singapore. She empowers those who want to make a difference in their lives and learn how to heal and practice daily self-care. She was a Business Analyst in one of the top Fortune 500 companies before leaving to pursue teaching full-time. As a teacher, Shin opens the door for her students to learn the Reiki practice in a safe environment and experience their own insightful journeys. She is also a psychic and medium. Shin is 27 years old at the point of writing.
Please reach out to her directly if you’d like to speak with her.
More about Shin: https://www.limshinreiki.com/about
Private Healing Sessions (in Singapore): https://www.limshinreiki.com/private
Learn Reiki for Yourself: https://www.limshinreiki.com/reiki-1
Further Information: Can Reiki healing help me or my child?
Reiki is a spiritual practice that gently encourages our systems back to balance; deep healing from within is evoked when our nervous system is balanced. By moving towards balance, Reiki practice can help us in any situation or challenge, even when it isn't the only help or support we need. Reiki is also known as a health-promoting, non-invasive practice that eases discomfort and helps us to function better, without pharmaceuticals. Reiki practice is safe, and cannot interfere with any (medical) forms of care we are receiving.
Read more about it here: https://www.limshinreiki.com/what-is-reiki